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Posted on 16th Jan at 5:06 AM, with 369 notes

CW: gender feels and misgendering
I feel like my genderqueer identity is so much a part of me, and I’m so proud of that aspect of myself. My gender influences how I present myself, how I interact with the world, the language I use, the media I choose to consume, so many things.
My gender is a part of me, like every other characteristic or experience that has made me who I am. So it would seem like my gender should be as obvious to the people who know and love me as it is to myself.
But it isn’t.
“You were born a female and you’ll always be a girl to me.”
That tells me that you don’t see me. That I’m right in front of you and yet you haven’t seen me in many years.
I have to expect that someone who prefers an illusion of their own creation over my reality…will never really see me as I am.
And that’s a shame. Our time is limited and ever shrinking, and you’re missing out on the chance to really know me.
Dear cis people,
Please get to know the nonbinary people in your lives. Learn to see them as they are and not as you wish they were. You are losing time. Missing an opportunity.
Having a nonbinary child, sibling, partner, parent, or friend is often framed as a loss. And it is not a loss.
Do not grieve for the illusion. Celebrate the reality. The person in front of you is radiant in their authenticity–love them as they are.
The nonbinary person in your life has not stolen your cis relative or friend away–they have given you the gift of their truth.
A priceless gift. Don’t throw it away.